Does something feel like it isn't working?

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Not everyone comes to counselling with a clear problem they can name.

Sometimes it's a relationship that doesn't feel right. Sometimes you're exhausted from looking after everybody else. You might find yourself repeating the same patterns and wondering why you keep ending up in the same place. Or perhaps life has changed.

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• The children have grown up.

• A relationship has ended.

• You've received a diagnosis you weren't expecting.

• Someone has died.

• The life you thought you'd have doesn't quite look like the life you're living.

 

Sometimes there isn't a single major event. You reach a point where you think, I don't want to keep living like this. I know that feeling.

I found that as I reached 50 and my children left home, I felt a real need to reinvent myself and find who I was outside my role as a mother. For me, that was both exciting and scary.

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Counselling can give you somewhere to start making sense of it.

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Here's how I can help

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  I provide counselling and psychotherapy for women experiencing:

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• Anxiety, depression and feeling overwhelmed

• Toxic or unhealthy relationship patterns

• People-pleasing, burnout and putting everyone else first

• Grief, loss and major life changes

• Chronic illness and unexpected diagnoses

• Reinvention, identity and starting again​

 

Often these things are connected.

What looks like anxiety today may connect with experiences from much earlier in life. The relationships we choose, the roles we take on, what we tolerate, and how responsible we feel for other people can all have their own histories. Understanding those patterns isn't about blaming ourselves or somebody else for the past. It's about understanding ourselves well enough to have more choice about what happens next.

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Professional counselling support. Human first.

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I bring professional training, therapeutic experience, and lived experience to my counselling and psychotherapy practice.

I know the value of good therapeutic support, but I also know what it's like when life doesn't go according to plan.

Both shape the way I work.

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You're not a collection of symptoms sitting across from me. You're a person with a history, relationships, strengths, contradictions, hopes, and probably some things you're still trying to make sense of.

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I will always work professionally, but I'll also work with you, human to human.

We start where you are.

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When relationships leave you questioning yourself

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Relationships are an area I'm particularly interested in. I'm currently finishing my first book, The Frog Was Never a Prince, which explores my own experience of becoming trapped in a toxic relationship, why leaving can be so difficult, and how I eventually began to understand what had kept me there and how I broke the cycle.

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You might be questioning whether your relationship is healthy, trying to understand why you've stayed in something that hurts you, recovering after leaving, or noticing the same relationship patterns appearing again and again.

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One question became incredibly important in my own journey. Instead of only asking:

"Why did they do that?"

I also became curious about:

"What was happening for me that made this so difficult to leave?"

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That isn't about taking responsibility for somebody else's behaviour. Absolutely not. It's about taking back some of our own power.

Now that is exciting.

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Read more: Why We Stay in Toxic and Abusive Relationships

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Counselling that looks beneath the surface

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I'm not going to give you a list of instructions about how you should live your life. Instead, we'll get curious about what's happening underneath the surface.

• Why does this affect you so strongly?

• Where did that belief about yourself come from?

• Why do you automatically take responsibility for everybody else?

• Why is saying no so uncomfortable?

• Why can you know something isn't good for you and still find it incredibly difficult to walk away?

 

When we understand the patterns underneath our thoughts, emotions and behaviour, we have a much better chance of changing them.

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Counselling in Seaton, Adelaide

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My counselling practice is based in Seaton in Adelaide's western suburbs, where I offer in-person counselling and psychotherapy.

I also provide telehealth counselling across Australia, so location doesn't need to prevent us from working together.

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Ready to talk?

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If something you've read here feels familiar, you're welcome to get in touch.

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